I screwed up! Now what do I do???

That's the phone call I got from a client the other day. He did something he considered screwing up, and was beating up on himself pretty badly for it. When's the last time YOU did that?

If you're human, you 'screw up' every single day. and it was my job as his spiritual coach to help him to see, accept and even, cherish his humanity. We set such high--sometimes impossible--standards for ourselves, and then when we don't meet them, we feel like we've failed. Not so.

One of my greatest spiritual teachers told me there is no such thing as failure, there is only learning taking place. So the question is 'What can I learn from this?' That's it. And then we move on.

No punishment, no berating ourselves, no slumping into giving up. No! Only moving on with the new awareness the lesson gave us.

While I was walking today in the beautiful, sunny, breezy morning, I was thinking about my own 'screw ups'. And I was laughing as I thought to myself well, if I never 'screwed up', I wouldn't be carrying around this extra weight, or ever argue with anyone, or have a judgemental thought, or..... Yeah, right!

Then I thought about the times that real change has occurred for me, for my clients---that moment when the thing you've been reaching for and 'failing' at, finally just clicks into place. And you're there.

And the phrase that came to me is: It's time!

That's it, it's simply time. So when we 'fail' to get there time after time after time, it's not failure at all. We're in the process of getting ready. This is so important that I'm going to say it again...

WE'RE IN THE PROCESS OF GETTING READY...UNTIL WE ARE FINALLY READY!

The Law of Attaction tell us that until we are aligned with something, we cannot attract it. So the 'getting ready' is about tweaking and tweaking and tweaking our alignment with that thing we want until we are so perfectly aligned with it that IT CAN'T NOT HAPPEN. It's the next logical step, and at that point it feels like it just sort of falls into place. Effortlessly. We're there.

When we can look at our life experience this way, as a living, breathing, positive process toward growth and change, then we can soften to our humanity and love ourselves in this very moment. Right now. Unconditionally.

We can pat ourselves on the back for persevering, we can count our past successes, and we can envision a wonderful future full of whatever it is we want.

We deserve all that. and more!

Love and Peace to you,
Jan